You are a Creator
It is fundamental you know what you want/like, and understand what you feel/think of (especially repeatedly) has an effect on the life you are going to be living. So, what would you like to be feeling, repeatedly? What are the actions, feelings, situations, environments, people, that bring you joy? No matter how ridiculous, no matter how useless, no matter how grandiose, no matter how mundane..? All is well :)
There is a way to let this come up naturally:
Connect (with yourself, or let somebody else hold the space), let the tension out, get understood, have fun, relax, let go! Put some good music on, start dancing, draw, or go gardening, put on a nice cup of a drink you like, and start journaling, talking, expressing in dance or singing: observe what comes up! Focus on valuing positive intent, listening to the messages.
Anchor what you've learned: put your newly-found, precious values on an Action Plan, a Mood Board, a painting, into a dance, or a morning routine, so that you can remember the exhilaration of your goal into your mind, and 'imprint' the joy of the alignment between your value and your true self into your heart.
Write, sculp, talk about your discoveries, put postcards on your walls, whatever works for you. For example, I bought myself a giant turtle fruit bowl carved from wood to remind myself to take things slow, and enjoy life and its abundance.
Postcards with quotes are nice, apps, one-word new year resolutions, art objects, even special shoes (I have red ones for the energy and the drive), every thing can potentially remind you of your 'energy/bodymind feeling/need/value' goal.
But the best reminder are people: my daughter reminds me daily of love, enthusiasm, a fresh look on things, etc.
I personally do Action Plans and draw mood boards, because they work. Enthusiastic, deep longing needs felt in the joy and truth of who you are, happen - eventually. In terms of values: love, joy, etc. - whatever is strong enough now, or made strong enough over time and repetition, whatever you can believe with all the bones in your body, because it really is you, the ultimate joyful you, happens.
To read more about the effect your emotions have on your cells' DNA and on the world, look here: Understand What is at Play.
So let's get started.
What would you really, really like? (for a personal vibration of joy, or peace, or love, is contagious, and changes the world: that's when we cooperate, help and listen to each other).